3 Myths About Motherhood I Believed Before I had a Baby
It has been almost 3 months since I gave birth to my son. Motherhood is the most wonderful thing that has ever happened to me and I wouldn't trade it for the world. In all honesty though, there is a valid reason I chose to become a mother at the age of 32 and not earlier. After my husband and I got married in 2013 people would ask when we were going to start a family. At the time, we were both very career focused and wanted the freedom to go out whenever we wanted to and to take vacations a few times a year on a whim. We both wanted kids, we just weren't ready at the time. I started to see friends and people on social media posting their pregnancy announcements and my heart would sink. Not because I wasn't happy for them but I was reminded that other people were deciding to have kids and not us. They've been married for a shorter amount of time than we were. Should we start thinking about kids too? Trust me I'm all about doing our own thing and going our own way, but I felt like most people in committed relationships or marriages our age were starting to have kids. Even though we were and still are very young, biologically, it reminded me that time was ticking. I started to realize that despite my husband and I choosing to wait a little while to get pregnant, I believed these 3 myths about parenthood prior to becoming a mom myself:
1. My freedom would be gone
In all honesty, becoming a parent has definitely changed my definition of freedom, however it didn't go away. I had this huge fear that it would be gone once my son was born. That simply wasn't true. My life changed in a big way but it was a good thing. I used to be able to go out whenever I want and do whatever I want and I can still do that, it just has to be planned in advance. I also have to make sure my son has everything he needs first prior to doing something for myself. For example, I do a group workout class twice a week and it is helpful keeping the date and time as consistent as possible so it is easier for me to do these workouts. I also like to have girls nights and date nights too. We just have to know the dates and times in advance and we can do whatever we want to do!
2. I would lose my personal identity once I had a baby
Again, a big fear of mine and it has proven so far not to be true! In fact, since becoming a mom, I have wanted to develop my personal brand and identity even more through blogging, creating content and more. Not only is this a great example for my son, it also motivates me to be more authentic and true to myself. Of course my son comes first and his needs are just as important, I just also care about mine as well! My personal identity did not go away and I have become more aware of wanting to improve my life because I now have more motivation to do so.
3. I would have a "mom bod"
Of course this could mean however you take it-- which is positive or negative. I'm referring to the negative which often comes down to the changes our bodies experience after giving birth. Trust me, there are changes and some parts of our bodies that will never be quite the same but I thought it would be worse. Since giving birth almost three months ago, I've noticed with some careful attention to staying active, eating a sensible diet and enjoying my life, my body is pretty close to what it was pre-pregnancy. Of course these changes and bounce back can take time but it isn't as dreadful as I thought it would be!
What kinds of things worry you about becoming a parent? If you are a mom, what did you find to be a myth? I'd love to hear from you in the comments below!